Relationship - Very True & Practical!

A friend sent me this article and i find it really interesting! let us share!

This is a very good one....read on.


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**DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? *

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,
'How do I know if I married the right person?'
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It
depends. Is that your husband?'
In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's
weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer. *
**EVERY *relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and
liked their *idiosyncrasies *(unconventional behavior/habit).

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely
natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to *DO* anything.
That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening *TO YOU*.

People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept off my feet.' Think about the
imagery of that __expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then
something came along and happened *TO YOU*.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But
after a few years of marriage, the *euphoria *(excitement) of love fades.
It's the natural cycle of *EVERY *relationship. Slowly but surely, phone
calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome
(when it happens), and your spouse's *idiosyncrasies*, instead of being
cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think
about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the
initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the
right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the *euphoria* of
the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for
their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the
most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship,
excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does *NOT* lie outside your marriage. It
lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone
else. You could.

And *TEMPORARILY* you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a
few years later. *Because* (listen carefully to this): *

**THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S
LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.** *

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll
*NEVER*just happen to you. You can't 'find' *LASTING love*. You have to 'make' it day
in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor of love.'
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes
*WISDOM*. You have to know *WHAT TO DO* to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is *NOT *a mystery. There are specific
things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there
are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger,
certain habits in your relationship * **WILL* make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make' love.

Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... *Not* just a feeling.

Remember this always: *

**'God determines who walks into your **life**.** **It is up to you to **
decide** **who you let walk away,** **who you let stay, and who you refuse
to let go.'*